don’t let it get to you. don’t let it defeat you. hold your head higher than ever. stand tall, square those shoulders, and have heart. you have been through worse, and you are going to get through this.
Well, the beauty of fandom is that nobody’s voice is needed. Fandom doesn’t need my voice, if I stopped writing tomorrow there would be plenty of people to say anything I could have thought of saying, and then some. The nice thing about fandom is that we’re all here because we want to be here, and when we talk it’s because we want to say things.
So I think look at it this way instead: is there a story you need to tell? Is there something you need to say? Or even just want to say? Fandom can be as much about us as it is about the canon we’re writing for. What has always driven me in terms of fandom is that there’s a story in me that wants out, or I have something I want to say about the canon, and there’s no reason not to say it. That’s how I write – out of compulsion and desire. Those aren’t things anyone outside of me can inspire or control.
So I guess I write by making it about me, and not giving a crap whether the canon needs what I have to say. 😀 It takes a healthy ego sometimes, I admit. But that’s how I do it.
legos don’t need you to build a spaceship out of them, you do it because you feel like it. minecraft doesn’t need you to ride a pig. yarn doesn’t need you to turn it into a sweater. birds don’t need you to spot them with binoculars and look them up in the bird book. a hobby is something you don’t have to do, that you do because you feel like it.
is it FUN? i’ve poured hundreds of hours into fics that got maybe six reviews. but i had FUN. write for yourself, write the stories that YOU NEED. then it doesn’t matter if six people like it or if six hundred people like it. fandom should be fun because people deserve to have fun and you, specifically, right now, deserve happiness and satisfaction and to do enjoyable things just for the pleasure of enjoying them.
i genuinely hope anyone ages 13-15 on this website (or, god forbid, younger) stays safe and keeps their private information secure and really private
please, if you’re really young on tumblr, try not to get swept up in the discourse and the tremendous amount of arguing with strangers that goes on here. i know you probably feel mature for your age but this website, like, really psychologically affects youth, and i encourage you to be cautious about your interactions with people on here
please, kiddos, stay safe
additionally, for my young, non-adult followers,
depression memes about wanting to die aren’t a healthy coping mechanism and can lead to worsening symptoms of your own mental health if overindulged in
you are not garbage. or trash. i know these terms are popular on here, but you shouldn’t be calling yourself that. you have everything you need inside of you to become your best self, even if it’s hard to see that
seriously, really don’t trust adults who want to date you. don’t trust adults who call you hot, flirt with you, ask you sexual questions, or ask you for nudes. (that last one is VERY illegal, also, please get help from a trusted non-creepy adult if this happens to you)
the opinions of complete strangers who aren’t interacting with you typically aren’t worth it. move on, use the block button. it’s not worth engaging with people who are going to make you feel awful or unsafe
take breaks from tumblr if it’s getting really stressful for you. talk to friends if you’ve got em, play a videogame or do whatever it is that can take your mind off the massive amounts of Hell on this website
recovery is good. it’s really, really good. if you’re having mental health issues, please seek out help if you can, or ask a trusted adult or friend for guidance. you are not alone. don’t let this website make you feel like you are
Tumblr’s at it again, thanks to the new European Privacy Laws. There’s probably nobody who will read this, but it pissed me off so much that I decided to make a post about it. (Ignore the weird language mish-mash, depending on your country the language might differ.)
OK, so many of us get this screen when we try to access our dash:
Realise how the ‘OK’ button is a nice, attention-grabbing blue? If you’re like me, you’re not exactly into reading a 100 pages document and tend to just click it.
My tip? DONT. Instead click on ‘Manage Options’ right next to it:
Now you’ll see this page:
Still pretty harmless, right? That ‘Accept’ button is looking really attractive right now. Instead, click on Verwalten (Probably something like ‘Manage Options’ or something in english) and you’ll get to this page:
Now that’s not too bad, right? I just switched all the buttons to ‘off’, because I’m jealously guarding my personal information and don’t want Tumblr to go off and do who knows what with it. Looks like we’re done! But wait: There’s a SHOW option.
When we click on that one, what we will get is this:
A HUGE list with OVER 300 ENTRIES of companies that can use your data by default if you’d just clicked ‘OK’ on that very first page. Coincidence that this list is hidden that much? Me thinks not. They’re all switched on by default, but I am still a petty bitch that doesn’t want to give out her data, so I switched them all off. All 300+ of them. There is no option to switch them all off at once, and even if you disable all the options above, the companies are still switched on.
(If you wonder how i got that number, I copied the list into excel and looked at the cell number. No way am I actually counting all those entries)
I too, am a petty bitch who unticked every single one.
I made a script to untick them all at once, because honestly that was a lot less effort than doing it manually. Paste the following code into the developer console of your browser (default shortcut F12):
var rows=document.getElementsByClassName("vendor-options")[0].getElementsByClassName("row");for(var i=0;i<rows.length;i++){rows[i].getElementsByClassName("binary-switch")[0].getElementsByTagName("input")[0].checked=false;}
what he means: Honestly the idea of men not being able to have emotions other than anger is really upsetting and an issue that needs to be addressed in our society. The hyper masculinity in our society that we teach to male children starting right as they are able to speak is an issue, we should be teaching kids that feelings are okay and that they should be able to express themselves in a healthy manner instead of bottling it up because “crying isn’t manly”
this is your daily reminder to stop demanding perfection of yourself right off the bat. let your creations be messy, let them be incomplete; don’t expect them to be an award winning masterpiece from the first word or line or note. everyone’s creativity thrives under different circumstances. don’t force someone else’s creative environment on yourself. get messy and find yourself as you go down the road that resonates with you
This is the hardest time of year, and if you are grieving, if you are lonely, if you are financially strapped know that you are not alone. You are so important and you may not see it, but you are loved by someone. Don’t hesitate to reach out to others; you never know who will reach back. Please take care of yourself this holiday season, and if you can, be there for others who could use some love too.
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